How To Figure Out What You Really, Really Want.

You may or may not be surprised to hear that not every mompreneur knows what they want to do with their lives.

You may or may not be surprised to hear that not every mompreneur knows what they want to do with their lives. There are many women who have such amazing minds and can accomplish so many things, yet they are never sure of what direction in life they would like to take.

From my studies of excellence and successful people,I saw that each person who considers themselves to be successful and peaceful within themselves all have this outcome for who they want to be in life. In fact it goes a step further than that, because they not only know who or what they want to become, but they can describe it to you in explicit detail. They have images and sounds in their minds that accurately show them what they are going towards, and with this they build a tenacious resolve deep inside to become this all successful human being. Even before they achieve their successes, on their way down the road to their various goals they experience comfort and total peace of mind as they are getting closer to that dream with every passing minute.

TRUE SUCCESS

Walter Disney is known as a famous cartoonist and for establishing Disney World and Disneyland. His dream was to become a cartoonist, and he made his dream come true. Not only did it come true, but Disney today is one of the most renowned and spectacular cartoon producers ever! That is the product of knowing your outcome. In fact, not too long ago at a news conference, a reporter asked representatives of Disney what they thought Walt would have said about Disney today. Their reply was along the lines of, “What do you mean? He saw it first!”. They realised that it was all made possible because of one man’s dream, and in that dream, he saw exactly what he was going to produce – his very own Disney World.

STRATEGY

However, before we can see our life’s dream come around, there is a need to establish what our desired outcome really is. Where do we want to be? Who do we want to become? What is it in life that is really that important to us? We need an answer to these questions to grow in life, it’s vital to have direction in order to feel fulfilment and real satisfaction in your life.

So, let’s get to the specifics; how can we know and begin to develop our outcome? To look at what your personal outcome is for your life and who you want to become, you need to think about your desires for life and what you believe is a must have/be or what is a could have/be. To start thinking along these lines, do the following exercise with a pen and paper and see what you can come up with.

    1. Remember when you were young and when you were just starting to realise that your life is yours and you can direct it any way you like. Remember the times that the adults in your life would ask you what you would like to do when you grow up. What was your answer? At the age of 7 or 8 what did you want to do when you became a grown up? Think about it for a moment and see that small you thinking “Hmmm, what would I like to do?”.

In your mind’s eye, bring that image of what you wanted to do up close and make it bright and colourful, really see what it was that you wanted to do. Take your time, for some this does not come easy. Once you have a large bright image of what you wanted to do in your mind’s eye, think about what that job or role would have meant about you as a person. For example would it show you to be caring, intelligent, humble? Or would it show you to love people, or that you are explorative and open minded? Take some time to list the things that this job you wanted to do would say about you as a person.

Once you have a list of things written down, think how many other pursuits in life could lead to having the same fundamental characteristics as the job you desired when you were younger. What else could you do to become that person that you always wanted to become? How else can you achieve your life’s desires and goals and to truly feel fulfilled in yourself? To add more juice to the things coming into your mind right now, try going through the second step in creating a well defined outcome for your life.

   2. Now is the time to really let go and be silly. Use your imagination in this step like you have never used it before. Don’t allow beliefs about how the world really works stop you from exploring every avenue of life in this exercise.

What I want you to do now is to imagine that everything you do in your life from now on will be 100% totally successful. Nothing will ever fail for you from this point onwards in your life. Now, from this position of power, make a list of as many different things you would like to accomplish. What would you do, would you buy a yacht and sail the world? Would you find a cure to a fatal disease? Would you make it your mission to move towards world peace? Would you burn all your clothes and get a new wardrobe and become a new person, an excelling person who loves her life? Travel luxuriously with your family? Write down all the things that you would like to do if everything you did was totally successful. List them all and leave nothing out. Nothing is too silly or mad or impossible for this exercise. What would you do? Think about it. Write it down.

   3. So by now you should have two lists and be able to see yourself doing them in your mind’s eye very vividly and colourful and bright. If not, just spend some time looking over the lists and practice seeing yourself already accomplishing the things noted down. Notice how the pictures look in your mind and how that makes you feel.

  4. In this step you need to go through your lists and pick out just 5 things that will affect your life for the better. That will move you towards your goal of who you want to become and give you the results you truly deserve. Carefully consider each item and weigh up the timelines before committing to it as a goal for your life. Select just 5 things so that you can give complete time and energy and remain focused on pursuing your life’s outcome.

This four step process will enable us to identify the meaning of who we want to become and give us the images in our minds of what life will be like when we have accomplished them. There are some important factors when establishing our life’s outcome which need to be addressed if we are to remain juiced about it or stay motivated about it through the duration of acquiring the changes and the desired results. Next week, we will talk about the factors that will keep that momentum towards the new life we are aiming towards.

Stay tuned…..

P.S. Did this Blog post resonate with you? Leave a comment with your #1 AHA moment.

Xoxo

Kelisha

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Kelisha Mills

Hi, I`m Kelisha Mills! I`m a wife, a mom of 4, and an Entrepreneur for over 15 years. My emarkable gift lies in igniting the entrepreneurial spirit within mompreneurs, propelling them toward their aspirations.
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